Exploring the joy and power in “No”

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As it stands, I’m just over a week into my social media sabbatical and I already can’t believe how much space and time and mental energy has been freed up (just last week I read four books!), allowing me to follow the thread of what my heart has been yearning for, calls I had previously been too busy or too distracted to hear. I can’t wait to share more from this place when it feels right.

As I continue along with my work semi-sabbatical, I’m also discovering and exploring the power of no. Saying no may seem like it runs counter intuitive to my slight obsession with productivity, but I’m realizing that they are both in service of my desire to just do less.

In his newsletter, James Altucher reveals how he decides to say yes or no to opportunities. Here’s what he wrote:

“Two out of these three have to trigger for me to say YES:

KNOWLEDGE: Will I learn something?

FUN: Is it fun?

MONEY: Is it financially worthwhile?”

As a result of this exercise – and thanks to my semi-sabbatical – I am finding myself answering no far more often than yes, and, like James Altucher, I’m still in the process of figuring out (or daydreaming about) what to say yes to!

In my deep dive into the topic of saying no, I also came across this Forge piece that says, “Saying no to something now will allow you to say yes to something else later,” before laying out a five step road map for saying no. I especially identify with number two.

You can rest assured that I’ll keep you posted on my findings as I deepen my commitment to myself and my time.

Dawned on me/you/us

As a verb, dawn can mean "become clear" or “enter one's consciousness or emotions.” It’s in this spirit that I share with you some of the things that help me get clear in various ways. May it be the same for you, too.

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